This is always a very tough situation to address. There was a recent survey that showed that only 25% of women enjoy giving fellatio. She may feel that giving fellatio is degrading or that your penis is not "clean". She may also worry that she will gag or that you will hold her head and trap her. We have a whole section on fellatio. It includes a variety of suggestions for oral sex. But really, she has to want to address any issues with you and about fellatio in order to give you this type of pleasure. I suggest that you talk to her about your concerns and desires, and ask her to read through the information. You may be surprised by how open to change she might be if she understands how it makes you feel.

Providing you follow correct proceedures and are not too rough, fisting a woman is perfectly safe and there should not be any long term effects. ALWAYS use heaps of PROBE, wear latex gloves, and be sure with your hand shapes. We have a variety of books that will give you more detailed information.

We're not planning on doing a thinner one in the near future, but watch this space - you never know. Of those in our range, the Boss is best for anal sex, and is very achievable for most people with a little bit of preparation ;-)

The Condom Cockring will be on the site again today, and is priced at $15.95. This is an excellent choice for a beginner - you might like to upgrade to the Naughty Bunny if you like the combination of vibration and slight pressure. With sex, it pays to be adventurous, considerate, playful and very aware of your lover's experience. You cannot make your gf try positions that she does not want to - but perhaps by trying new products and activities, she might grow to want to try these. Or she might not.

You obviously realise that my first advice would be to use a cockring... And this is most likely to be the most effective remedy. Are you sure you want to discount this?

Premature ejaculation can be caused by a variety of things. Assuming physical reasons, your bf may simply feel too much sensation during intercourse - which may be why he can last for ages when he's drunk.

I would suggest that you use a lot of PROBE during penetration, and some people consider wearing more than one condom to be effective also. Also, if he ejaculates before intercourse he is likely to last longer - perhaps at lunchtime if you're planning a big night in.

The shape is the only difference with these. They have the same push button controller and are both waterproof.

These are just being manufactured at the moment - we should have them within a few weeks.

What does your girlfriend say about this? Many women can orgasm only when stimulating themselves because they know exactly what to do. Often they have a particular routine that they know will always lead to an orgasm, and this is something that they can trust. Your girlfriend may find the sex that you have to be very satisfying and exciting, though she may never orgasm without touching herself. I understand your desire to be involved in this, and you might have to accept that it is simply something that you cannot do. You might like to read our Sex Info for more tips and hints - the sexual world is huge, and even the most experienced lovers could do with a brush up!

We do not sell weights, but several of our customers have used fishing weights for this purpose. I cannot tell you the actual weights to use, but I suggest you start with the smallest and work your way up.

Hmmm, this seems like it might be a little more complicated than the information that you've given me. Is there anything more to consider? What does she think about the situation?

Based on it being a simple mis-match of time required to orgasm, it seems to me that either you or her (or you both), need to start attending to your sexual desires earlier than the actual intercourse part. Pre-intercourse activities might include hand jobs, oral or anal sex. If you are wanting intercourse for longer than she is, you might like to consider a masturbator.

Alternatively, using a variety of sexual techniques is more likely to result in her being multi-orgasmic, so read up on our Sex Info. Bear in mind that many women can only comfortably orgasm once, so it might pay to focus more on your needs than trying to change hers.

If she likes being on top, a great toy for couples is The Kiwi. This is a vibrating cockring that will feel good for you and for your girlfriend. I would also suggest that you buy some PROBE and Womanzone. It's also not a bad idea to get a vibrator - there are heaps to choose from so take a look at the site together.

I haven't had a lapdance myself, so all I could give you would be ideas from my imagination. Pearls are very prominent in a sexual context - there are pearl vibrators, pearls that are inserted vaginally, pearls that can be imbedded in men's penis', and strands of pearls. A strand of pearls in itself is very erotic if looped around various parts of the body and dragged across the nipples, testicles and penis. I suggest you decide on your budget for your dance and choose your weapon/s from above. Then have a play yourself and decide on your strategies - with your superior knowledge of your boyfriend's erotic preferences, you are bound to give him the lapdance of his life.

We currently have two very good vibrating buttplugs, and the bullet in the Blue Moon is removable for additional fun in other places (nice against the testicles or perineum). As for the silicone buttplugs, they are all really good. Your choice depends on your preferences and experience level. The Pendant and Jewel are more for beginners, and the Gem and Pearl for the slightly more experienced. Saying that, with a little bit of lubricant and care, they are all very achievable and pleasurable for most people.

We are not legally obliged to have an R rating, though we do self-impose an R16 limit. We are happy to give information to teens younger than 16, but not products.

I have encountered this issue a lot over the last 10 years. Try not to worry about her not orgasming. The sensations that she feels - probably for a long time - can be much more pleasurable that an orgasm, and she might prefer that.

Why? Chances are that your beautiful person (so lovely to hear you describe her as such) enjoys G-spot stimulation. This is probably why she asks you to stop suddenly and why she ejaculates when she orgasms. She will ask you to stop because before a G-spot orgasm, the very intense sensation that she gets is very similar to busting to go to the toilet, and she might fear that it is not ejaculate, but urine. Put down a towel before sex, try a variety of stimulation (soft - hard, different positions, front - back wall of vagina, have her on top, clitoral at the same time, use a buttplug) and continue communicating with her. If you are both enjoying your sex, you have a good strong base, and your sex can only get better.