Unfortunately I can't answer this without going through the web as your email address is not sent through to me with your question. The interesting thing about this pain that you describe is that a lot of woman experience it, and like you, I have never had a medical professional adequately explain it. My theory is that some women are more prone to kidney and bladder infections, far a variety of reasons. Vigorous penetration in certain positions can impact on inflamed or sensitive areas internally, causing that stabbing pain. My only suggestion to you is to experiment with different positions. For example, with her on top your penis will penetrate much deeper than the missionary position. In this instance it might be that the missionary position is more comfortable for her. But experiment because her area of inflammation might only be aggravated in a couple of positions.

My system is showing that there is one left in our Palmerston North store - contact them and you can give your credit card details to them directly. palmerston-shop@dvice.co.nz or 06 3591404.

Otherwise we have a similar but slimmer vibe arriving in January next year. They're very popular and we were a little caught out by their demand. Merry Xmas!

I would suggest that your doctor do a little more research into sexually related matters. It is incredibly common to experience that itchiness - and it is usually a mild allergic reaction. If you continue to use the product that is irritating you, the reaction can get bigger.

There are two possibilities - both common. They are that you have a mild latex intolerance or, had a response to the lubricant that you used. I would suggest using a GOOD lubricant such as PROBE. Lubricants with flavours or warming/cooling properties tend to worsen this type of reaction. And the situation only gets worse with repeated use.

I would also suggest that you try non-latex condoms such as Durex Avanti, which though more expensive, are safe and will not cause a reaction in the latex intolerant.

If you are more susceptible to thrush and other infections generally ALWAYS keep away from crappy lubes. Make sure that you use HEAPS of the good quality stuff.

Well that sounds like a lot of fun, quickly followed by a bit of frustration...

All of our vibrators have at least a 30 day guarantee against faults, and those that cost over $100 have a 60 day guarantee. Return the vibe with your receipt to PO Box 27548, Wellington, and we will get a replacement out to you straight away. One thing to check before you send it back is the batteries - the ones that come with the unit are designed for a short period of use, and sometimes a bad battery can result in that type of malfunction.

The category on our site that you should check out is Clit Ticklers. I think all of these products are excellent and they sound like they would suit your needs.

I recommend that you check out the Naughty Bunny if you want something that still vibrates. Otherwise check out the leather cockrings that we have - they're all excellent.

Not unless you do it excessively. I'd try and keep to three times or less per day. You'll notice when you do too much because you'll get very sore.

We have a fabulous book called Sensuous Magic that will give you some great tips and ideas.

Hmmm, I'm kinda stumped on this one. Perhaps you gag because you're reacting to the thought of maybe drowning when he cums? Perhaps you could also try wearing a condom (use a flavoured one, and probably a little lube) so you don't have that concern.

We do have an excellent book on giving head called The Ultimate Guide to Fellatio, which recommends, among other things, taking a quick breathe/suck when you feel yourself about to gag. And perhaps a little practice with a dildo or vibrator? Give it a go and let me know what works for you - I'll update our Sex Info pages ;-)

I think the two main things that would be useful for your adventure is a good bottle of PROBE and a good adjustable cockring. The lubricant helps to desensitise him, while allowing him to feel the sensations of intercourse (so the experience is therefore more pleasurable AND more controllable). The cockring will allow him to control himself more easily as well, and again, will also give him pleasurable sensations. We recommend using the cockring for only 30 minutes at a time, but I'm sure you can work out your timing. Good luck with your amazing adventure!

Unfortunately I am not an expert in this area. From what I know, your chances are increased if you are at a lighter weight. Depending on the severity of your condition, you are also likely to notice a thickening of your hair also. I understand that there are drugs that a specialist can give you to increase the chances of conception also. As to sextoys etc, unfortunately there is not really anything that will help you out. In preparation we recommend using Loveballs, but not while you're actually trying to conceive. We also suggest that you don't use lubricant (contrary to what we usually recommend). Best of luck - and remember those Loveballs AFTER you've had your baby!

There is no legal age limit to buying condoms - they are not restricted items. Where you buy them might have age restrictions however. If you are concerned about being old enough to buy condoms, you might like to consider the fact that it is illegal to have sex if you are younger than 16 years old - or to have sex with someone under 16 years old. However, if you have considered the risks and morality of this already, get yourself condoms if you are going to be sexually active. Family Planning clinics provide condoms free.

Often times we are not completely sure of the exact material ourselves and can only describe it as "jelly". This is a fault in the toy-making industry, and something that we are working on with our suppliers. However, as you say, we do let you know when we know. I would stay away from the soft material vibes UNLESS we specifically say that they are made from plastic or silicone. We are getting back a new brand called Fun Factory shortly, and these are all vibrators made from a silicone outer material that is firm but not plastic.

The silicone products tend to be more expensive as their quality is higher and the cost of producing them is higher.

It certainly removes the itchiness caused by ingrown hairs and small nicks. I couldn't guarantee that you wouldn't have any itching, though in my experience this is greatly reduced. And certainly beats the horror of having the hairs torn out!

Human beings are sexual creatures - and both boys and girls often start masturbating much younger than 17 years. So you are completely normal. It is a very wise thing to explore your sexual responses and pleasure by yourself before embarking on a sexual relationship with someone else. Buying a vibrator is an excellent idea - I'm assuming you live with others, so make sure it's a quiet one and that you have your stereo going...