I have heard of it. We don't stock it. I'm not sure that I would enjoy testing a product that numbs my physical experience, particularly in an area where it is possible to do damage if proper technique is not used!

Your habit seems to be quite ingrained - might be hard to retrain when you so obviously enjoy masturbating. I suggest that you try and change your routine around masturbation. Maybe small changes at first like a different time than usual, then moving onto more challenging things like adjusting your grip and pressure. This is probably not going to be easy for you, but if you want to enjoy sex in other ways, might be necessary. There are pills that can increase your libido (not necessary in this case) and sensitivity (perhaps more relevant), so you might like to try the Virilina.

Loveballs are really easy to use. No further work than popping them in in the morning is required. We suggest using them around 3 times a week for best results - you can keep them in while you're at work if you wish. They don't work if you are lying down while wearing them. You will probably notice a difference within a couple of weeks of using them, but most definitely within a month.

It is unfortunately still very common in our society for men to associate anal play with fears of homosexuality. I suggest a multi-pronged approach (so to speak), depending on the person or people that you are introducing to anal play. I firmly believe in the power of discussion - and a frank, and perhaps sexual - conversation around how much it turns you on, and the pleasure that can be experienced by men, can go a long way. When introducing anal exploration it is important to be gentle. Perhaps just start by stimulating the outside of the anus with lubricant. Always assess how your lover is feeling. If all seems well, continue the exploration. Gentle gentle is also a good policy, in many life situation ;-)

The Tryst is the neoprene sleeve that holds two dildos together, creating a customised double-ended dildo. You can have loads of fun working out positions, though a good place to start is with both partners slotting together like Vs with one on their side and the other on their belly or back. You can vary this by sitting up or with bending of knees. The Tryst is not designed to be used with a harness specifically, though with some could be used. The positioning of the internal dildo is unlikely to be ideal however.

It makes me very sad knowing that there are people in our world who feel the way that you do about sex and about homosexuals. I am glad that you've asked these questions, but the fact that you have to is a sad comment on the state of our society. Liking anal play makes no statement or comment on your sexuality. In fact more heterosexual people practice anal sex than homosexuals. It has for hundreds of years been a common method of birth control, and in fact it is likely that your grandparents used it. Anal sex is pleasurable for both women and men - it is a physical fact. The way that anal sex has been fetishized as "evil", "gay" and "dirty" is damaging. I would also like to mention that your inner turmoil may very well be about your subconscious gay feelings - very few people are completely heterosexual or completely homosexual. Most of us are shades of grey. The extremity of your response is disturbing, and I recommend that you go and see a councillor about this and related issues. Your girlfriend is teasing you about it because you are an easy target and your responses are completely irrational and out of proportion. And there is no way in hell that your experience can in any way be compared to the experience of rape. Get it sorted out and your life will be a lot more relaxed, and you will be much more likely to enjoy more intimate, adventurous and varied sex. If you don't, you will be a slave to these views.

You are very lucky that you are in a relationship where you can explore anal pleasure - many people are not. Being a bottom (receiving sexual connection) is a good thing to experience and play with... Many men feel like unless they are the sexual agressor they are gay or feminine. The reality is that most women would appreciate and enjoy a more give and take sex life. It gives you the opportunity to be a more considerate and skilled lover, with a more intimate sex life.

Oral sex can be absolutely fantastic for men and women. Also, there is a lot of variation in what women like to feel and experience, so it's not surprising if you don't get it right at first. The most important thing to do is to listen to her - preferably from her mouth, but also from her body. A common mistake is to lick too hard - this can be painful for a woman who is sensitive. I recommend starting off with soft long strokes from her vagina to her clitoris, and very gradually increasing pressure if it seems like she is enjoying this. If she becomes strangely silent, return to soft. Keep it slow and regular at first so that she trusts you and can concentrate on her sensations. You can also try flicking her clitoris gently with your tongue later on. She might be shy but she will let you know with her breathing or noises if you get something right and she wants to encourage you. I recommend The Ultimate Guide To Cunnilingus as a great place to start.

I feel for you mate! There is very little quality porn available in NZ - in fact if you find some can you let me know? We've been looking for blimmin ages and the reality seems to be that it is all made on a cheap budget with the quick buck and thrills in mind. Which isn't so say that it's not a turn on for many people obviously!

Thanks for your compliments - we try our best to provide the best products and service that is possible. We do occassionally have douche products, but not for a wee while as the demand is not high. However, we are sourcing new products all the time and I will keep an eye out for some quality douche products.

Usually smaller vibes are more useful for external stimulation, rather than internal - they don't have enough girth to be satisfying for most women and men. If you want a smaller vibe I would recommend the Lady Opulents rather than the Lifesaver, as the vibration range is much better and they are waterproof. Also I think the quality is much better. The Lifesaver is more of a gag gift and the vibe works but is not the main point of the product.

All of our parcels are delivered in a plain courier bag. All that is written on this is your name and address, and our return address - no company name. We are delivering products on each day that we are open excluding weekends. So we're trading on the Wednesday, Thursday and Friday between the Xmas and New Years holiday.

There is nothing on the market currently that I am aware of similar to what you're describing. We have had a vibrating ball that straps to the tongue which our customers have raved about, but these are difficult to source so we rarely have them in stock. I'm not entirely sure what you are wanting to accomplish with a sleeve - more sensation for your partner or a barrier for yourself. If it is a barrier that you're after, using a dental dam or even a cling film will work well. For additional sensation some people find that tongue piercings are effective. I myself think that oral sex doesn't need additional sensation, just appropriate technique. Everyone is different so your partner might like different things to you or your previous partners. In this instance communication (verbal and non-verbal) is crucial. And not such a bad activity to practice often ;-)

You've identified the two products that I would recommend that you try. Virilina most often results in harder erections for the men who use it - and it can also increase libido. Cockrings are a natural and fun product to use also. They are certainly worth a try. Because you are only 18, if these products don't work I would suggest that the reason is either physical or emotional. In this case a visit to either a GP or counsellor might be in order.

What a strange question to have asked of you often! Why do people think that you should know the answer? A circumsized penis does not have foreskin, and is often described as looking similar to the "bishop" from a chess set. There are plenty of images on the internet, though doing a search is likely to bring up a LOT of dodgy sites. If you look on our cockrings page we have illustrations that include circumsized and non-circumsized penises.

The first thing that you need to be aware of is that it is illegal for you to receive money in exchange for sex until you are 18 years old. You might like to check out the Prostitution Reform Bill that was passed a few years ago.

Other than that, I do not have any specific information for you, but when you are old enough I suggest that you contact your local BDSM group - they will be able to help you to develop some skills in a respectful and safe way, or they will at least be able to give you more advice. An internet search will turn up their details easily enough.