Dear Shellaire

Yes a man and a woman can use a double ended dildo together and what a lot of fun that can be. You can both use it for anal penetration or vaginal for you and anal for him.

If you have not experimented with anal play before we would recommend getting a bit of practise in with smaller buttplugs before moving to dildos.
Always use products that are designed for safe anal play and plenty of lubricant so you can have a great time. Check out the anal sex info on this site.

You can start by sitting facing each other with your knees up. If you both lean back on your hands and push your bottoms closer to each other, spreading your legs apart you will be in about the correct position to get the idea.

Some warm up will be required most likely to get you turned on and lubricated, definately use a good lubricant such as Probe and possibly Innuendo (anal muscle relaxant) for him.

We recommend using two silicone dildo's with a tryst to lock them together as a duoble ender. This means that you can have your prefered size each and have a central point to hold onto to drive the dildo.
Also you can use the dildos separately for other kinds of play.
He might like you to strap on a dildo as well.

One of you has to take charge of driving the dildo in and out of both of you and the other may choose to lie back whilst the driver is in more of a sitting position or even squatting above.

If you are both fairly flexible double ended sex can be wild, vigorous or gentle and had in many different positions.
The more you experiment the more you will discover what works for you.

Have fun practising!

Dear Loosie

The tightness of your pelvic floor muscles does not affect your partners ability to keep an erection and is more likely to be an issue with his body.
If he is feeling tired a lot his energy levels may not be sufficient to maintain bloodflow. Alcohol consumption can also affect erections as can lack of exercise and general fitness and well being. Even a diet lackingin fresh fruit and vegetables can have a lasting effect.
There are a couple of products that can be of benefit. Virilina is a herbal dietry supplement taken an hour or so before sex that help guys maintain erections and have longer stronger orgasms that is very effective.
A cockring can also help to acheive and maintain and erection.
Also good to remember that if his penis is feeling tired he still has hands, tongue and fingers to drive you wild. And you can play with his genitals and have a longer slower build up before intercourse which might help him become harder and can be lots of fun.

Dear funjojo

Sometimes our sex lives can run in cycles of what we find pleasurable, or what gets us over the edge. Many women experience changes in how they enjoy sex after pregnancy and childbirth. This is related both to hormonal changes and also physical (in relation to vaginal birth).
The majority of women actually require direct clitoral stimulation to orgasm. Also the stronger your pelvic floor muscles the easier it is to orgasm. I suggest you invest in some Loveballs and focus on the inner workout!
I would suggest that you experiment with lots of different forms of sexual pleasure, take some time out from the children and spoil yourself.
Enjoying different sexual activities is about enjoying the journey rather than just making it to your destination.
So take a nice long trip, enjoy the view along the way. Using lubricant is always a great idea and another option to try would be Purr Gel which enhances clitoral stimulation. If you are keen to have some fun with toys, both the Kiwi or the Naughty Bunny are fantastic couples toys and lots of fun.

Dear "Burning for Love." I would recommend doing a series of checks to identify what the issue is.

Are you using a water based lubricant? A lube that is free of flavour, colour or any additional ingredients such as Probe or Sylk is a good start. Depending on the type of sex you are having there can be friction which can lead to burning.

Thrush is a very common to pass between lovers and the symptoms are burning and discomfort. you can get a health check or speak to your phaemacist for a quick and esay remedy. It would be essential that you both received treatment as otherwise you will keep giving it to each other.

If you are using condoms, most condoms are made from latex and you could have a latex allergy which is very usual. Lubricant can help reduce the effects of this however using non latex condoms, Durex Avanti polyurethanes are available.

Another possibility, is that you have a urinary tract infection which frequently occurs in new relationships, if you experience a burning when you want to pee, then pop inot your chemist and get some salts that will restore the PH in your bladder. If symptoms do not go away after a 2-3 days go to your Doctor as this can be very painful if untreated.

Getting a sexual health check for the clinic will help identify any other possible causes, again you would both need to be checked and going together is a great idea. Often only one partner will show symptoms but both may be affected.

Look up in the phone book or do a google online for your local sexual health provider if you decide to get a check up. It is usually free of charge.

Hello Wood
As long as the guy does not have a sexually transmitted disease, it is safe for a girl to swallow sperm.
not all girls find this an easy thing to do and prefer their guy not to cum in their mouth -so they pull out just before climax, or they can cum in a condom.
If a girl does like it then she can go for it!

Dear Cheeky
You can purchase Purr gel from the D.VICE shop located at 27 Ponsonby Rd. Unfortunately we are currently out of stock of Lavigra.
Have fun shopping at D.VICE!

Dear Vicky
Many women need to feel in a loving mood to want to have sex. Offer to give her an indulgent, non sexual aromatherapy massage using D.VICE Love oil, available in either Arousing or Erotic blends. Make sure you both have time on your own without any interruptions so you can pamper and spoil her. Some women have a naturally low libido but if she is willing, you could encourage her to try our Purr Gel, it's a clitoral arousal gel which can promote responsiveness, increases personal lubrication, provide more sensation, an easier orgasm and happy sexual partners! This product works best if massaged gently to the under side of the clitoris most every day. Keep the lines of communication open, too much is never enough! And I would always recommend the use of a good lubricant like Probe Silky Light, lubricant increases sensation, making all sex more comfortable and pleasurable.

Dear seaside grrl
Congratulations on your vibrator order!
Thats the only thing with purcahsing over the website is you don't get to actually see the product first. Here's the D.VICE returns policy:
If the product is faulty within the guarantee period, return it with proof of purchase and we will replace it. For vibrators valued at over $100 we offer a 60 day guarantee, for all other vibrators the guarantee is 30 days. We recommend that customers choose their toys carefully, as we do not exchange due to a customer's change of mind. Hopefully your vibe has arrived and meets your expectations. Maybe when you upgrade take the plunge and pop into a D.VICE shop. The staff are all very freindly and appoachable and will do their best to ensure you feel safe and comfortable. They also have excellent product knowledge too and can assist you with your purchase.

Dear Peppino
Cockrings are a great idea! A cockring is a strap or ring worn around the base of the penis or balls or both. The pressure of the cockring helps to achieve and maintain an erection and gives pleasure to the wearer. D.VICE stocks cockrings in both vibrating & non vibrating styles.You would need to know approximate sizing for the types that don't stretch like the Halter which is a customer favourite. It is a soft leather cockring worn around the base of the penis, separating and restraining the balls. Another popular cockring the Bridle, features a fully adjustable soft leather cock strap and ball separator.It also has a rubber cockring and is pleasing to the adventurous. Cockrings with magnets in increase bloodflow and erectile function. Many cultures have used magnets for this purpose for centuries. The adjustable and stretchy types of cockring are great if the purchaser is not too sure of what size to get! Vibrating cockrings like the Kiwi are fantastic fun for two! It can be worn on the base of the penis stimulating the person wearing it and anyone that they are having sex with. Another popular favourite is the Naughty Bunny, a comfortable fit around the penis and intense vibrations make this toy very popular... Enjoy

Dear helpme
D.VICE shops are R16 premises so you have to be aged 16 or over to enter. Due to the fact that D.VICE does not sell any pornography the shops are not leaglly required to carry an R18 restriction. I hope this helps.

Dear Pagal
Masturbation is a healthy and pleasurable activity for both men and women and has many health benefits both physically and emotionally. Some cultures believe that excessive masturbation diminishes the chi or vital essence. Also if masturbation is practiced to a level where is becomes compulsive this can be deterimental on many levels. Self pleasure is a great way to learn about ones own sexual responses and desires and mutual masturbation (with a sexual partner) can be lots of fun and very satisfying... enjoy

Dear pinkbits
The Feeldoe is a fantastic dildo and very popular in our Melbourne shop. Unfortunately we are unable to retail them in NZ at present, however you can purchase the Feeldoe online from our Australian website. www.dvice.com.au
Hope this helps!

Dear THatGUY
You don't mention whether this is a first time experience for your boyfriend or not. If it is, he could be suffering a bit of anxiety, but regardless, I would definitely recommend the use of a good lubricant like Lubexxx which is particularly good for anal sex. If you would prefer a totally water based option then Probe Silky Light would be the pick of the bunch. Using a good lubricant is essential for enjoying anal sex and both these lubes are safe for use with condoms, gloves and dams.
If you and your boyfriend would like further information on anal play, just click on the Sex Info tab near the top of the home page of our website and check out the informative section on Anal Play. We also have a fantastic book called The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Men, which gives you all the ins and outs (pardon the pun)about everything you need to know to give and receive anal pleasure.

Dear merc 100
It sounds as if you and your wife have a great time pleasuring each other and have great communication in your relationship. I'm wondering if your wife has had a negative past experience that has resulted in a fear of penetration? If penetration is or has been painful a woman's body may have an involuntary reation that tightens the muscles around the vaginal opening during penetration. The fear of that pain recurring can then cause the woman to unconsciously tighten the next time and again experience discomfort. This may result in Vaginismus which is a "psychosomatic" problem and this is often treated by a professional sex therapist. Treatment involves relaxation exercises and the self-insertion of dilators, beginning with one that is very small, and then over time, progressing to larger and larger ones. The whole time the woman continues to practice her relaxation.
However you and your wife may be able to gently and slowly introduce some penetration into your love making. Always use lots of lubricant and make sure she is aroused. I would start off using your finger or a small silicone dildo that is soft and flexible. Couples have purchased our silicone buttplugs for vaginal use for similar situations as they are slender and flexible. Let go of all expectations and encourage your wife to relax and have fun. If you are gradually able to allow her to have an enjoyable experience of penetration you may then at some stage be able to have penetration together. Be patient and go slow...

Dear Muttley
Make some time for you and your partner to sit and talk about what is going on in your lives and if your partner is willing, you could suggest that you both try out the following ideas.
You do not mention in either of your questions as to whether you are using a good lubricant during your sexual activities, this would be my first suggestion, Probe Silky Light is a great product you could try. Lubricant increases sensation, making all sex more comfortable and pleasurable. Unfortunately, we are currently out of stock of Lavigra which helps to increase libido,orgasm rating and sexual enhancement in women, keep an eye out on our website for when new stock arrives. Another great product your partner could try is Purr Gel, it can promote responsiveness and helps promote increased lubrication, more sensation, an easier orgasm and happy sexual partners!
Communication in all things sexual is really the key! Go and unlock the door!