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I've always been able to reach orgasm through clit stimulation, but I get no pleasure at all through penetration. I've tried with fingers and with a vibrator and it doesn't hurt, but it never feels good. I can never find my G-spot. What should I do? I'm still a virgin (probably a rarity at my age, 18).
Advice grrl answered:Dear Ari,
Thank you for your question. Not every woman is the same and so not every woman will respond the same way to different forms of sexual stimulation. It is not uncommon for many women to be unable to orgasm through penetration alone, however, many do enjoy penetration coupled with clitoral stimulation.
Penetration generally feels best if you are already aroused - and stimulating your clitoris with fingers or toys is a great way to build your arousal. Bringing yourself to a clitoral orgasm will also increase your arousal levels. Many women experience what is described as the urge to urinate during G-spot exploration, so it pays to ensure your bladder is empty first. It may be this sensation that you describe as 'not hurting, but also not feeling good'. So, relax past this sensation and persevere on with your exploration and experiment with what feels pleasurable to you. This may include some clitoral stimulation at the same time, chances are that you will experience an intense pleasurable sensation. Some women also experience ejaculation when their G-spot is being stimulated, so don't be concerned if this happens to you, it's all perfectly natural. You may want to play out your adventures on a towel though, just in case!
When it comes to penetrating yourself, a good place to start is using a good lubricant like Probe or Yes, and inserting one or two of your fingers. When you enter your vagina with your fingers, you'll find that the vaginal walls feel quite smooth. Then, if you beckon towards the front of your body in a 'come hither' motion, you will find your G-spot (also known as the urethral sponge) - the texture is more spongy than the area around it, especially if you are aroused. If you have trouble finding it, it may help if you squat or lie on your back with your knees to your chest.
When you are aroused the G-spot swells and becomes more sensitive, and we would suggest applying gentle pressure (like a massage) to stimulate it, rather than thrusting vigorously. You can do this with your fingertips, or with a vibrator designed to stimulate the G-spot, such as the Rock Chick (designed for clitoral and G spot vibration at the same time), and the G Twist or the Mini Meany (both by Fun Factory). More advanced toys to move on to would be the Serpentine, Curve and Delight - but we would still recommend starting off gently with fingers and a good water based lube.
If you would like to read up more on the subject of the G-spot, then I suggest you have a good read of the other answers in this column or by listening to a number of our pod casts (on our D.VICE ADVICE page) on the subject or if you would like to have something to curl up in bed and have a good read, then grab a copy of You will find all of these resources easy to understand and they could help make your future G-spot explorations more fun and pleasurable.
Some people put a lot of pressure on themselves to try and achieve penetrative orgasm and sometimes this level of pressure can be the thing holding then back from really enjoying themselves and having fun. In other words, enjoy the ride! If you get to the final destination it’s a bonus, but the journey is also fun and valuable.
Have fun exploring!
Thank you for your question. Not every woman is the same and so not every woman will respond the same way to different forms of sexual stimulation. It is not uncommon for many women to be unable to orgasm through penetration alone, however, many do enjoy penetration coupled with clitoral stimulation.
Penetration generally feels best if you are already aroused - and stimulating your clitoris with fingers or toys is a great way to build your arousal. Bringing yourself to a clitoral orgasm will also increase your arousal levels. Many women experience what is described as the urge to urinate during G-spot exploration, so it pays to ensure your bladder is empty first. It may be this sensation that you describe as 'not hurting, but also not feeling good'. So, relax past this sensation and persevere on with your exploration and experiment with what feels pleasurable to you. This may include some clitoral stimulation at the same time, chances are that you will experience an intense pleasurable sensation. Some women also experience ejaculation when their G-spot is being stimulated, so don't be concerned if this happens to you, it's all perfectly natural. You may want to play out your adventures on a towel though, just in case!
When it comes to penetrating yourself, a good place to start is using a good lubricant like Probe or Yes, and inserting one or two of your fingers. When you enter your vagina with your fingers, you'll find that the vaginal walls feel quite smooth. Then, if you beckon towards the front of your body in a 'come hither' motion, you will find your G-spot (also known as the urethral sponge) - the texture is more spongy than the area around it, especially if you are aroused. If you have trouble finding it, it may help if you squat or lie on your back with your knees to your chest.
When you are aroused the G-spot swells and becomes more sensitive, and we would suggest applying gentle pressure (like a massage) to stimulate it, rather than thrusting vigorously. You can do this with your fingertips, or with a vibrator designed to stimulate the G-spot, such as the Rock Chick (designed for clitoral and G spot vibration at the same time), and the G Twist or the Mini Meany (both by Fun Factory). More advanced toys to move on to would be the Serpentine, Curve and Delight - but we would still recommend starting off gently with fingers and a good water based lube.
If you would like to read up more on the subject of the G-spot, then I suggest you have a good read of the other answers in this column or by listening to a number of our pod casts (on our D.VICE ADVICE page) on the subject or if you would like to have something to curl up in bed and have a good read, then grab a copy of You will find all of these resources easy to understand and they could help make your future G-spot explorations more fun and pleasurable.
Some people put a lot of pressure on themselves to try and achieve penetrative orgasm and sometimes this level of pressure can be the thing holding then back from really enjoying themselves and having fun. In other words, enjoy the ride! If you get to the final destination it’s a bonus, but the journey is also fun and valuable.
Have fun exploring!
I'm a 20 yr old virgin, and I'm scared to have sex!!! I had the chance to last night with a guy I like (he does not know) but avoided it because he knows what he's doing and I'm afraid that he'll talk how bad I am. My question is: how do I know what to do etc? Like what's the basic technique???
Advice grrl answered:Dear Scared Virgin
One of the best ways to overcome your fears about sex is to educate yourself - not only about sex and sexuality, but also about what turns you on and makes you feel good! Knowing what makes yourself feel good when playing solo will make it much more likely that you'll have a good time when having sex with someone else as well. Check out the D.VICE Advice radio shows which offer a wealth of sexual techniques and advice. Also reading through questions in this section from other women in a similar situation may provide some great tips.
Often we expect guys to take charge during sex and to know what to do. In reality even young guys with some sexual experience may not have enough sexual knowledge to know how to pleasure you. Many young men learn about sex from watching porn which actually gives a very unrealistic idea about what sex is and what most women find pleasurable. Also there is a lot of ego associated with sexual experience for guys so many will not be nearly as informed as they would have you believe.
Many young people still believe that sex is intercourse –penetration of the vagina with a guy’s penis. Sex play includes a whole range of activities and the primary purpose is for you to both pleasure each other. For most women the main area of sexual pleasure is the clitoris and most women require direct clitoral stimulation in order to orgasm. The clitoris is often not stimulated during intercourse so sex play needs to incorporate stimulation of your clitoris –by rubbing against him, stimulation with the fingers, orally or many women enjoy vibration. If you know what kind of clitoral stimulation you enjoy you can then direct him –don’t expect him to be a mind reader!
Often your first experience of penetration with another person can be scary which is why experimenting with self pleasure (masturbation) is a great idea. When you do have sex with a guy make sure you are really turned on before penetration and even if you are nervous ask him to go slow and focus on relaxing your vaginal muscles. Even though you produce your own natural lubrication adding a quality water-based lubricant such as Probe is essential and will greatly enhance your experience of penetration. Lubricant is also important to use with condoms. Also you need to make sure you are informed and prepared in terms of safe sex gear both to prevent unwanted pregnancy but also avoid catching a nasty STI.
The D.VICE Advice radio show on Safe Sex would be a good place to ensure you are informed about safe sex.
If you want to know more about sex with others and how to do it, then we have some excellent how-to guides and manuals to help you. Have a look at our non-fiction section to see our full range. Of particular use is the Great Sex Guide, which is ideal if you're just starting out.
If you're wanting to spend more time learning your own body and what turns you on, then try checking out some of these. Reading erotica can be an aid to arousing you. And masturbating using a vibrating bullet or beginner's vibrator can help you figure out what you like as well. They're not too overwhelming, and are a classic aid to orgasmic fun.
Above all, don't have sex with someone unless you're ready to. It doesn’t matter how old you are when you first have sex with another person –the time needs to be right for you. If you take the time to learn about how your body works and know what you find pleasurable you’ll be that much better equipped to share this with another person. Talk about it with your partner, share any concerns or worries you might have, and make sure they know what you like - and that you know what they like! Great communication can lead to great sex, or at the very least an experience that's less stressful and scary.
Enjoy!
One of the best ways to overcome your fears about sex is to educate yourself - not only about sex and sexuality, but also about what turns you on and makes you feel good! Knowing what makes yourself feel good when playing solo will make it much more likely that you'll have a good time when having sex with someone else as well. Check out the D.VICE Advice radio shows which offer a wealth of sexual techniques and advice. Also reading through questions in this section from other women in a similar situation may provide some great tips.
Often we expect guys to take charge during sex and to know what to do. In reality even young guys with some sexual experience may not have enough sexual knowledge to know how to pleasure you. Many young men learn about sex from watching porn which actually gives a very unrealistic idea about what sex is and what most women find pleasurable. Also there is a lot of ego associated with sexual experience for guys so many will not be nearly as informed as they would have you believe.
Many young people still believe that sex is intercourse –penetration of the vagina with a guy’s penis. Sex play includes a whole range of activities and the primary purpose is for you to both pleasure each other. For most women the main area of sexual pleasure is the clitoris and most women require direct clitoral stimulation in order to orgasm. The clitoris is often not stimulated during intercourse so sex play needs to incorporate stimulation of your clitoris –by rubbing against him, stimulation with the fingers, orally or many women enjoy vibration. If you know what kind of clitoral stimulation you enjoy you can then direct him –don’t expect him to be a mind reader!
Often your first experience of penetration with another person can be scary which is why experimenting with self pleasure (masturbation) is a great idea. When you do have sex with a guy make sure you are really turned on before penetration and even if you are nervous ask him to go slow and focus on relaxing your vaginal muscles. Even though you produce your own natural lubrication adding a quality water-based lubricant such as Probe is essential and will greatly enhance your experience of penetration. Lubricant is also important to use with condoms. Also you need to make sure you are informed and prepared in terms of safe sex gear both to prevent unwanted pregnancy but also avoid catching a nasty STI.
The D.VICE Advice radio show on Safe Sex would be a good place to ensure you are informed about safe sex.
If you want to know more about sex with others and how to do it, then we have some excellent how-to guides and manuals to help you. Have a look at our non-fiction section to see our full range. Of particular use is the Great Sex Guide, which is ideal if you're just starting out.
If you're wanting to spend more time learning your own body and what turns you on, then try checking out some of these. Reading erotica can be an aid to arousing you. And masturbating using a vibrating bullet or beginner's vibrator can help you figure out what you like as well. They're not too overwhelming, and are a classic aid to orgasmic fun.
Above all, don't have sex with someone unless you're ready to. It doesn’t matter how old you are when you first have sex with another person –the time needs to be right for you. If you take the time to learn about how your body works and know what you find pleasurable you’ll be that much better equipped to share this with another person. Talk about it with your partner, share any concerns or worries you might have, and make sure they know what you like - and that you know what they like! Great communication can lead to great sex, or at the very least an experience that's less stressful and scary.
Enjoy!
Hi,
I'm a (generally adventurous) heterosexual female, trying to find a CD of erotic stories. Can you recommend anything and tell me where I can find it? Alternatively, maybe there's something on the web that I can download to my ipod?
Advice grrl answered:I'm a (generally adventurous) heterosexual female, trying to find a CD of erotic stories. Can you recommend anything and tell me where I can find it? Alternatively, maybe there's something on the web that I can download to my ipod?
Dear audio pleasure seeker
While we don't sell audio books at D.VICE, we do have a great range of erotic books - why not snuggle up in bed with your partner and have them read aloud to you? Many women find that hearing their partner reading to them is very arousing, and leads to bonding as well as bonking! Perhaps he could tease you with some luscious stories of anal eroticism, or perhaps fantasise with a few three way erotic stories?
One of the great things about being read to, rather than reading yourself, is that your hands are free. You can take advantage of that freedom to increase your arousal, perhaps by rocking on your or tickling your insides with the deluxe Dolphin Pearl. And then, once you're raring to jump him and he's tired out from talking ... well, then it's up to the two of you!
Enjoy you aural pleasure journey!
While we don't sell audio books at D.VICE, we do have a great range of erotic books - why not snuggle up in bed with your partner and have them read aloud to you? Many women find that hearing their partner reading to them is very arousing, and leads to bonding as well as bonking! Perhaps he could tease you with some luscious stories of anal eroticism, or perhaps fantasise with a few three way erotic stories?
One of the great things about being read to, rather than reading yourself, is that your hands are free. You can take advantage of that freedom to increase your arousal, perhaps by rocking on your or tickling your insides with the deluxe Dolphin Pearl. And then, once you're raring to jump him and he's tired out from talking ... well, then it's up to the two of you!
Enjoy you aural pleasure journey!
I guess I am SUPER lucky here, as I have discovered that I have really intense orgasms when I exercise! I first noticed when doing a particular abdominal exercise in yoga sessions, then doing crunches at the gym. It just felt incredible, especially those long, drawn out moments when I realised it was about to happen, before it actually did! It really gave me motivation to work out!
Problem is, I haven't managed to get there during sex - I guess, from reading other questions in this forum that it is all about core tension, which makes sense given the exercises I was doing. But how do I get that into the bedroom? I'd love some advice about techniques or positions which may help (and I'm planning on buying some Smartballs later this week to help me!)
Advice grrl answered:Problem is, I haven't managed to get there during sex - I guess, from reading other questions in this forum that it is all about core tension, which makes sense given the exercises I was doing. But how do I get that into the bedroom? I'd love some advice about techniques or positions which may help (and I'm planning on buying some Smartballs later this week to help me!)
Dear yOga
The type of orgasm you're achieving during your workouts is sometimes known as a 'core orgasm' - and I'm delighted you're having them! So far as getting the same results during sex, a good starting point is to mimic some of the movements you're doing at the gym. A lot of that core tension appears to come from the tightening of the Pelvic Floor Muscles (often known as PC or Kegel muscles in addition to friction from moving your legs up and down, so if you can combine those with your lovemaking (without breaking your partner), then you may be able to achieve them during sex as well as during your workout. I suggest you try to incorporate these movements into a session of self pleasure (masturbation) and see how you go.
You mention planning to invest in the Smart Balls which is an excellent idea. Smart balls tone and strengthen your pelvic floor muscles, which for many women makes it more likely for you to orgasm and gives you greater awareness of your orgasmic response. You can wear Smart balls to the gym too!
Also excellent are Luna Beads, which comes as two weighted sets - exercising your insides and building resistance.
Another recommendation to make it more likely for you to orgasm is to use Purr Gel. This is a clitoral arousal gel which encourages your clitoris to become fully aroused. It is very effective and we receive lots of positive feedback about its orgasm enhancing effects.
In terms of techniques make sure that if you enjoy clitoral stimulation that your sexual partner is giving your clitoris the attention it deserves during sex play. The majority of women do require direct clitoral stimulation in order to orgasm. You can both have fun together replicating your yoga moves during sex and lots of laughs which often helps you relax. Sometimes the pressure of not being able to orgasm can detract from sex being fun. Make sure you enjoy the journey and remember not to juts focus on orgasm as the outcome. Having the focus being solely on your pleasure during sex play might be just the ticket and every woman deserves to have times where your pleasure is at the forefront. The thing about achieving orgasm is that is a combination of muscular tension and release, often relaxing a little and taking the pressure off can work wonders.
Also ensure you are using a quality water based lubricant such as YES during penetration which enhances pleasure and reduces friction.
Check out the D.VICE Advice radio shows about Orgasm –there are lots of great tips to enhance your orgasmic journey!
The type of orgasm you're achieving during your workouts is sometimes known as a 'core orgasm' - and I'm delighted you're having them! So far as getting the same results during sex, a good starting point is to mimic some of the movements you're doing at the gym. A lot of that core tension appears to come from the tightening of the Pelvic Floor Muscles (often known as PC or Kegel muscles in addition to friction from moving your legs up and down, so if you can combine those with your lovemaking (without breaking your partner), then you may be able to achieve them during sex as well as during your workout. I suggest you try to incorporate these movements into a session of self pleasure (masturbation) and see how you go.
You mention planning to invest in the Smart Balls which is an excellent idea. Smart balls tone and strengthen your pelvic floor muscles, which for many women makes it more likely for you to orgasm and gives you greater awareness of your orgasmic response. You can wear Smart balls to the gym too!
Also excellent are Luna Beads, which comes as two weighted sets - exercising your insides and building resistance.
Another recommendation to make it more likely for you to orgasm is to use Purr Gel. This is a clitoral arousal gel which encourages your clitoris to become fully aroused. It is very effective and we receive lots of positive feedback about its orgasm enhancing effects.
In terms of techniques make sure that if you enjoy clitoral stimulation that your sexual partner is giving your clitoris the attention it deserves during sex play. The majority of women do require direct clitoral stimulation in order to orgasm. You can both have fun together replicating your yoga moves during sex and lots of laughs which often helps you relax. Sometimes the pressure of not being able to orgasm can detract from sex being fun. Make sure you enjoy the journey and remember not to juts focus on orgasm as the outcome. Having the focus being solely on your pleasure during sex play might be just the ticket and every woman deserves to have times where your pleasure is at the forefront. The thing about achieving orgasm is that is a combination of muscular tension and release, often relaxing a little and taking the pressure off can work wonders.
Also ensure you are using a quality water based lubricant such as YES during penetration which enhances pleasure and reduces friction.
Check out the D.VICE Advice radio shows about Orgasm –there are lots of great tips to enhance your orgasmic journey!
Hi there,
I suffer from vaginismus (involuntary spasms of PC muscles and painful sex) and am looking for some smaller vibrators or dildos to help gradually get used to penetration. It is difficult to tell on the internet which of your products are suitable. I was wondering if you could recommend a couple of your products that you think would be a good introduction. I need to start off quite small, eg, a little bigger than a finger. Can you help?
Thanks so much
Advice grrl answered:I suffer from vaginismus (involuntary spasms of PC muscles and painful sex) and am looking for some smaller vibrators or dildos to help gradually get used to penetration. It is difficult to tell on the internet which of your products are suitable. I was wondering if you could recommend a couple of your products that you think would be a good introduction. I need to start off quite small, eg, a little bigger than a finger. Can you help?
Thanks so much
Hi Unsure,
At D.VICE we have found Vaginismus seems to affect quite a few women. However the great news is we have found many of our customers have been able to overcome this and experience vaginal penetration that is both pleasurable and orgasmic.
As the majority of women require direct clitoral stimulation in order to orgasm often having sexual contact that only involves external stimulation for a while can take the pressure off. Whilst this may be a big ask for some sexual partners there are of course many other ways to pleasure each other.
Definitely experimenting during self pleasure means you are in total control of the penetration and not is the position of having to please someone else. Just taking the pressure off and giving yourself permission to relax and enjoy the sexual sensation sin your body can have a positive effect. Ensure you are fully aroused before attempting penetration and it is essential to use a good quality waterbased lubricant. It will help immensely with penetration of any size (be it your finger, a toy, or a penis), by slicking and smoothing the way, decreasing the friction and reducing some of the pain from your spasms.
YES is a totally organic lube that is proving very popular with D.VICE customers and Probe has been the top selling lubricant at D.VICE for many years
In terms of toys I would recommend stating off which a high quality silicone toy designed for penetration such as a Silicone dildo. Silicone is an amazing feeling material and is soft enough to insert easily but firm enough to give great pleasure. It is also a very friendly feeling product as it heats up to the body temperature. The best way to check out the sizes is to go into a D.VICE shop, but if there is not a shop located close to you the measurements are listed on the website and in the catalogue. You can phone 0800 739 8697 if you would like a catalogue sent out to you. Babe dildo is quite slender, and the Sweetie is even slimmer. However many women with vaginismis prefer to start off with either the Pendant (about the size of a finger) or the Jewel (often the rippled shape allows your muscles to stretch just a little and then relax). Whilst these are both designed as anal toys they fine for vaginal use and have a flared base so are easy to use.
Another option for many women is to use a vibrating toy which may aid the relaxation of the vaginal muscles. I would recommend a silicone toy again for enhanced pleasure. The Fun Factory range of Mini Vibrators are excellent quality being designed and manufactured in Germany. Little Paul is petite, flexible and offers a variety of vibrating options. For a special treat check out the stunning Lelo range, designed in Sweden and fully rechargeable. Both the Gigi and Liv are petite and receiving rave reviews!
Most of all make sure you have a great level of communication with your sexual partner, take it slow and stay positive. Vaginismus can be overcome and the healing journey can be both enjoyable and pleasurable.
At D.VICE we have found Vaginismus seems to affect quite a few women. However the great news is we have found many of our customers have been able to overcome this and experience vaginal penetration that is both pleasurable and orgasmic.
As the majority of women require direct clitoral stimulation in order to orgasm often having sexual contact that only involves external stimulation for a while can take the pressure off. Whilst this may be a big ask for some sexual partners there are of course many other ways to pleasure each other.
Definitely experimenting during self pleasure means you are in total control of the penetration and not is the position of having to please someone else. Just taking the pressure off and giving yourself permission to relax and enjoy the sexual sensation sin your body can have a positive effect. Ensure you are fully aroused before attempting penetration and it is essential to use a good quality waterbased lubricant. It will help immensely with penetration of any size (be it your finger, a toy, or a penis), by slicking and smoothing the way, decreasing the friction and reducing some of the pain from your spasms.
YES is a totally organic lube that is proving very popular with D.VICE customers and Probe has been the top selling lubricant at D.VICE for many years
In terms of toys I would recommend stating off which a high quality silicone toy designed for penetration such as a Silicone dildo. Silicone is an amazing feeling material and is soft enough to insert easily but firm enough to give great pleasure. It is also a very friendly feeling product as it heats up to the body temperature. The best way to check out the sizes is to go into a D.VICE shop, but if there is not a shop located close to you the measurements are listed on the website and in the catalogue. You can phone 0800 739 8697 if you would like a catalogue sent out to you. Babe dildo is quite slender, and the Sweetie is even slimmer. However many women with vaginismis prefer to start off with either the Pendant (about the size of a finger) or the Jewel (often the rippled shape allows your muscles to stretch just a little and then relax). Whilst these are both designed as anal toys they fine for vaginal use and have a flared base so are easy to use.
Another option for many women is to use a vibrating toy which may aid the relaxation of the vaginal muscles. I would recommend a silicone toy again for enhanced pleasure. The Fun Factory range of Mini Vibrators are excellent quality being designed and manufactured in Germany. Little Paul is petite, flexible and offers a variety of vibrating options. For a special treat check out the stunning Lelo range, designed in Sweden and fully rechargeable. Both the Gigi and Liv are petite and receiving rave reviews!
Most of all make sure you have a great level of communication with your sexual partner, take it slow and stay positive. Vaginismus can be overcome and the healing journey can be both enjoyable and pleasurable.
We are interested in buying the Rock Chick vibrator. What is the best position to use the Rock Chick or how we can use the vibrator together? Is there any way you can use it remotely? How waterproof is it?
Advice grrl answered:Hi Bru
The Rock Chick is a fantastic toy to use either solo or with a partner. If you're playing with a partner, using the Rock Chick means that you can keep your hands free to torment them while the toy vibrates you to orgasm. You can 'rock' against your partner with the Rock chick inserted stimulating your g-spot and adding the motion to the stimulation of your clitoris. If you enjoy double penetration the Rock chick is ideal, with the Rock chick inserted vaginally your partner can penrate you anally at the same time AND stimulate your clitoris by moving the Rock chick. If you like to use a strap-on, you can wear the Rock Chick beneath the harness and get yourself off while thrusting away!
The Rock Chick is not designed to be used remotely at all. The bullet vibrator is removable, but can only be controlled by pressing the button on the bullet. If you and your partner are playing long-distance, though, you can always tell them how to move, when to rock on the toy, when to turn the vibrator on and off - use your imagination!
The Rock Chick is made of medical-grade silicone, and is 100% waterproof. You can rock in the bath or the shower, the spa or the pool.
Our testing team of D.VICE gals love the Rock Chick. We hope you do too!
The Rock Chick is a fantastic toy to use either solo or with a partner. If you're playing with a partner, using the Rock Chick means that you can keep your hands free to torment them while the toy vibrates you to orgasm. You can 'rock' against your partner with the Rock chick inserted stimulating your g-spot and adding the motion to the stimulation of your clitoris. If you enjoy double penetration the Rock chick is ideal, with the Rock chick inserted vaginally your partner can penrate you anally at the same time AND stimulate your clitoris by moving the Rock chick. If you like to use a strap-on, you can wear the Rock Chick beneath the harness and get yourself off while thrusting away!
The Rock Chick is not designed to be used remotely at all. The bullet vibrator is removable, but can only be controlled by pressing the button on the bullet. If you and your partner are playing long-distance, though, you can always tell them how to move, when to rock on the toy, when to turn the vibrator on and off - use your imagination!
The Rock Chick is made of medical-grade silicone, and is 100% waterproof. You can rock in the bath or the shower, the spa or the pool.
Our testing team of D.VICE gals love the Rock Chick. We hope you do too!
how old do you have to be to go into a d.vice store? I am only 17 but would really like to get a pair of duo balls as i have weak pelvic floor muscles. i saw a sign that said R16, but i thought i must have seen it wrong cos i thought most stores were r18.
Advice grrl answered:Hi AA
You're in luck! D.VICE stores are R16, so you are welcome to come in and check out the range of Love balls. I reccomend the Fun Factory Smartballs as the best option. Due to the fact that at D.VICE we do not sell any pornography (dvd's, mags, video) the stores are not R18.
Instead you'll find and amazing sekection of sex toys and accessoroes along with helpful staff who can answer all your questions and ensure you feel empowered and comfortable.
Don't be offended if you get asked for ID... we do have to check that people are aged 16 or over...
Happy shopping!
You're in luck! D.VICE stores are R16, so you are welcome to come in and check out the range of Love balls. I reccomend the Fun Factory Smartballs as the best option. Due to the fact that at D.VICE we do not sell any pornography (dvd's, mags, video) the stores are not R18.
Instead you'll find and amazing sekection of sex toys and accessoroes along with helpful staff who can answer all your questions and ensure you feel empowered and comfortable.
Don't be offended if you get asked for ID... we do have to check that people are aged 16 or over...
Happy shopping!
I was looking at the Fun Factory web site and saw they had a Share xl vartion of the Share dildo will you be selling these I already have a share and love using it the xl looks lovely.
Advice grrl answered:Hi Pegging
Yes the new Fun Factory Share XL is gorgeous! Definately more substantial than the original Share and a stunning design for added sensation. They are currently in stock in D.VICE stores but do not appear to be loaded on the website. I'll check out why this is and ensure the Share XL is loaded online soon...
It's definately a great addtion to your toy collection
Yes the new Fun Factory Share XL is gorgeous! Definately more substantial than the original Share and a stunning design for added sensation. They are currently in stock in D.VICE stores but do not appear to be loaded on the website. I'll check out why this is and ensure the Share XL is loaded online soon...
It's definately a great addtion to your toy collection
can you please advise where we can view how to make the best use of the rock chick we have both look searched the manufactures web site but no luck
Advice grrl answered:Hi Bru and Missy
Hope you are both loving your Rock chick. There are some great tips for use in the Rock chick reviews on ou website. Also check out the Rock chick review I did recently for the new website www.flossie.com. Not sure itf it's live yet but the site is well worth a peak and the review will be up soon...
The 'Rockin moves' video footage is available to view at www.rock-chick.com. There is a link on the front page and it will play automatically -when you hear the opera you know you're about to see all the Rock chick moves!
Enjoy!
Hope you are both loving your Rock chick. There are some great tips for use in the Rock chick reviews on ou website. Also check out the Rock chick review I did recently for the new website www.flossie.com. Not sure itf it's live yet but the site is well worth a peak and the review will be up soon...
The 'Rockin moves' video footage is available to view at www.rock-chick.com. There is a link on the front page and it will play automatically -when you hear the opera you know you're about to see all the Rock chick moves!
Enjoy!
Hi Emma
talked about a web site where you were able to view different ways to use the rock chick on saturdays radio show.i have tried to do a web search no luck
Advice grrl answered:talked about a web site where you were able to view different ways to use the rock chick on saturdays radio show.i have tried to do a web search no luck
Hi 'a lovable missy'
Thanks for listening to the D.VICE advice radio show -I hope you've picked up some tips!
The 'Rockin moves' video footage is available to view at www.rock-chick.com. There is a link on the front page and it will play automatically -when you hear the opera you know you're about to see all the Rock chick moves!
The Rock chick is also perfect to pop in and use for pleasure on those long road trips. Not that I'm suggesting you indulge in self pleasue whilst driving! But the passenger seat is great and if you do have your hands on the wheel it can of course be used totally hands free...
enjoy!
Thanks for listening to the D.VICE advice radio show -I hope you've picked up some tips!
The 'Rockin moves' video footage is available to view at www.rock-chick.com. There is a link on the front page and it will play automatically -when you hear the opera you know you're about to see all the Rock chick moves!
The Rock chick is also perfect to pop in and use for pleasure on those long road trips. Not that I'm suggesting you indulge in self pleasue whilst driving! But the passenger seat is great and if you do have your hands on the wheel it can of course be used totally hands free...
enjoy!
hi,
was just wondering how discreet your packages are? are they labeled or branded?
Andy answered:was just wondering how discreet your packages are? are they labeled or branded?
Dear shy
Thanks for sending through this question. Many people are concerned about their puchases remaining confidential.
Discretion is of the utmost impotance to us and we do everythign we can to ensure your puchase is totally confidential.
Any purchases you make will be sent out either in a NZ courier bag or wrapped in plain brown wrapping paper with courier stickers. There is absoloutely no branding or any way to determine the package is from D.VICE. The senders address will be LLM Ltd which is our company name. If you would like 'Privte and Confidential' written on the package just specify when making your purchase.
Happy shopping!
Thanks for sending through this question. Many people are concerned about their puchases remaining confidential.
Discretion is of the utmost impotance to us and we do everythign we can to ensure your puchase is totally confidential.
Any purchases you make will be sent out either in a NZ courier bag or wrapped in plain brown wrapping paper with courier stickers. There is absoloutely no branding or any way to determine the package is from D.VICE. The senders address will be LLM Ltd which is our company name. If you would like 'Privte and Confidential' written on the package just specify when making your purchase.
Happy shopping!
Ok i am still a virgin but i really want to give myself an orgasm. Ive tried to find my g-spot but i cant and I cant get hold of a vibrator. Help me please!
tech answered:Dear Grayse
Thanks for your question. It sounds like you are on an exciting mission of self discovery. Finding out what makes you orgasm is going to be an interesting road. Not every woman is the same and therefore, not every woman will respond the same way to sexual stimulation. I’d really encourage you to get to know your own body and your pleasure spots, what it is that makes you aroused.
It is not uncommon for many women to be unable to orgasm through G spot stimulation alone. For most women, clitoral stimulation is a big part of arousal leading to the potential orgasm. Using a good lube like · Probe or Lubexxx and experimenting with different clitoral masturbation techniques is a great way to start getting you aroused and may lead to a clitoral orgasm.
If you are more interested in penetrative sex to build up your personal level of experience before engaging with a partner, a good place to start is to use a good lube like the ones mentioned above and entering with your fingers. Empty your bladder first as G spot stimulation does create a desire to urinate but don’t worry, this is all perfectly normal, you just need to work past the desire to pee. The vaginal walls feel quite smooth when you enter and when you hit your G spot the texture changes and feels a bit more spongy. You’ll be heading towards the front of your body, some people find that making a come hither motion with their fingers helps them discover where their G spot is, some find squatting or lying on your back with your knees to your chest also effective. When aroused the G spot swells and becomes more sensitive, we would suggest applying pin pointed pressure (like a massage) to stimulate the G rather than thrusting vigorously.
Also, we are aware that some people put a lot of pressure on themselves to try and achieve orgasm. Sometimes this self induced level of pressure can be the thing holding you back from really enjoying yourself and having fun. In other words, enjoy the ride. If you get to the final destination it’s a bonus but the journey is also fun and valuable.
There are many toys that we could steer you towards that provide direct stimulation which may help you reach orgasm however I am aware that you have said that you are unable to get hold of a vibrator. If the limitation is fear of walking into a D.VICE store let us reassure you that the stores are set out cleanly and the staff are professional, well informed and skilled at putting people at ease, plus the stores are R16. If you are worried about ordering off the website or mail ordering, we mail products out in discreet plain courier bags without a description of the contents or where the items have been sent from. Items we would recommend to get started with in the initial search for the G spot are the Rock Chick designed for clitoral and G spot vibration at the same time and also some of the Fun Factory range of Silicone vibrators. Specifically the G twist or the Mini Meany. More advanced toys to move on to would be the Serpentine, Curve and Delight but I would still recommend starting off gently with fingers and lube. Have fun exploring!
Thanks for your question. It sounds like you are on an exciting mission of self discovery. Finding out what makes you orgasm is going to be an interesting road. Not every woman is the same and therefore, not every woman will respond the same way to sexual stimulation. I’d really encourage you to get to know your own body and your pleasure spots, what it is that makes you aroused.
It is not uncommon for many women to be unable to orgasm through G spot stimulation alone. For most women, clitoral stimulation is a big part of arousal leading to the potential orgasm. Using a good lube like · Probe or Lubexxx and experimenting with different clitoral masturbation techniques is a great way to start getting you aroused and may lead to a clitoral orgasm.
If you are more interested in penetrative sex to build up your personal level of experience before engaging with a partner, a good place to start is to use a good lube like the ones mentioned above and entering with your fingers. Empty your bladder first as G spot stimulation does create a desire to urinate but don’t worry, this is all perfectly normal, you just need to work past the desire to pee. The vaginal walls feel quite smooth when you enter and when you hit your G spot the texture changes and feels a bit more spongy. You’ll be heading towards the front of your body, some people find that making a come hither motion with their fingers helps them discover where their G spot is, some find squatting or lying on your back with your knees to your chest also effective. When aroused the G spot swells and becomes more sensitive, we would suggest applying pin pointed pressure (like a massage) to stimulate the G rather than thrusting vigorously.
Also, we are aware that some people put a lot of pressure on themselves to try and achieve orgasm. Sometimes this self induced level of pressure can be the thing holding you back from really enjoying yourself and having fun. In other words, enjoy the ride. If you get to the final destination it’s a bonus but the journey is also fun and valuable.
There are many toys that we could steer you towards that provide direct stimulation which may help you reach orgasm however I am aware that you have said that you are unable to get hold of a vibrator. If the limitation is fear of walking into a D.VICE store let us reassure you that the stores are set out cleanly and the staff are professional, well informed and skilled at putting people at ease, plus the stores are R16. If you are worried about ordering off the website or mail ordering, we mail products out in discreet plain courier bags without a description of the contents or where the items have been sent from. Items we would recommend to get started with in the initial search for the G spot are the Rock Chick designed for clitoral and G spot vibration at the same time and also some of the Fun Factory range of Silicone vibrators. Specifically the G twist or the Mini Meany. More advanced toys to move on to would be the Serpentine, Curve and Delight but I would still recommend starting off gently with fingers and lube. Have fun exploring!
when or ever going to get in more of your slide nipple clamps the missy finds the other clamps to hard on her nipples
Andy answered:Dear nipple lover
Unfortunately we have not stocked the Tweezer style of nipple clamps for sometime and are having difficulty finding a supplier for these. However I would recommend trying out our Deluxe Adjustable Nipple Clamps which have proved to be our best selling model. You can still release the tension of the clamp by tightening the screw slightly or when you feel like you want to increase the tension you can unscrew the entire screw from the clamp.
These are currently not in stock on the website but if you phone the 0800SEXTOYS our staff may be able to track down a pair for you in stock at a D.VICE shop.
If you love nipple stimulation you may like to try the Nipple Shields. These are very popular and provide enahnced nipple sensation when worn during sex play!
Unfortunately we have not stocked the Tweezer style of nipple clamps for sometime and are having difficulty finding a supplier for these. However I would recommend trying out our Deluxe Adjustable Nipple Clamps which have proved to be our best selling model. You can still release the tension of the clamp by tightening the screw slightly or when you feel like you want to increase the tension you can unscrew the entire screw from the clamp.
These are currently not in stock on the website but if you phone the 0800SEXTOYS our staff may be able to track down a pair for you in stock at a D.VICE shop.
If you love nipple stimulation you may like to try the Nipple Shields. These are very popular and provide enahnced nipple sensation when worn during sex play!
hi i am a 20 year old male been having sex scince i was 15 but i seem to cum way to quickly?what can i do?please help
tech answered:Dear cuuummmm
Thanks for your question, this is not an uncommon issue particularly for guys in their 20's. There are quite a few techniques and products you can try in order to ensure you last longer. Do remember that the majority of women require direct clitoral stimulation in order to orgasm so the more clitoral stimulating techniques you can add to your sexual repitoire the more she'll be smiling. Firstly I would recommend trying a basic cocking. Cockrings are great for putting a little pressure at the base of the penis and aid in sustaining the erection for longer. The · Standard Rubber Cockring is an inexpensive option to start with at $5.99 each. These are available in four sizes to go just around the base of the penis and then four larger sizes to fit around the penis and balls. I suggest getting a few sizes to see what works best for you. Another option is the Traditional Leather Cockring which has an adjustable leather strap to fit around the base of your cock and balls. There is also a selection of other vibrating and non vibrating textured options for added fun such as the Tuatara. Training yourself to masturbate slowly to hold back ejaculation is good practice before partner play and also masturbating to ejaculation prior to partner play sometimes means that guys can hold out for longer the second time round. Durex make a condom line called Durex Performer which contains Benzocaine a special lubricant they put in the tip of the condom to help delay climax for men. I'd also recommend listening to the D.VICE Advice shows through our website links, particularly the shows on Masturbation for guys and Male orgasm.
Thanks for your question, this is not an uncommon issue particularly for guys in their 20's. There are quite a few techniques and products you can try in order to ensure you last longer. Do remember that the majority of women require direct clitoral stimulation in order to orgasm so the more clitoral stimulating techniques you can add to your sexual repitoire the more she'll be smiling. Firstly I would recommend trying a basic cocking. Cockrings are great for putting a little pressure at the base of the penis and aid in sustaining the erection for longer. The · Standard Rubber Cockring is an inexpensive option to start with at $5.99 each. These are available in four sizes to go just around the base of the penis and then four larger sizes to fit around the penis and balls. I suggest getting a few sizes to see what works best for you. Another option is the Traditional Leather Cockring which has an adjustable leather strap to fit around the base of your cock and balls. There is also a selection of other vibrating and non vibrating textured options for added fun such as the Tuatara. Training yourself to masturbate slowly to hold back ejaculation is good practice before partner play and also masturbating to ejaculation prior to partner play sometimes means that guys can hold out for longer the second time round. Durex make a condom line called Durex Performer which contains Benzocaine a special lubricant they put in the tip of the condom to help delay climax for men. I'd also recommend listening to the D.VICE Advice shows through our website links, particularly the shows on Masturbation for guys and Male orgasm.
I bought a clit clip today and I can't seem to figure out how to put it on properly. Is there any kind of in-depth instructions on how to put it on?
tech answered:Dear Slightly Frustrated
The Clit Clip can be slightly challenging to put on for new users but it is well worth persisting :) Hold the clip inbetween your fingers at the closed end. Gently pull the inner labia (lips) out so that you can slide the arms of the clit clip behind the clit with the open arms resting either side of your inner labia. This may be quite a tight sensation initially. Your clit should poke through the round opening at the top of the clip providing a little pressure to keep the clit out. The clit hood will be slightly pulled back which for most women will enhance sensation. It helps to use a little Lubricant such as Probe or saliva on the Clit clip so that it slides on easily. If you find that the clip is too tight or too loose you may need to adjust the clip arms by pulling them out or pushing them together slightly to fit your body shape.
It may help to use a small hand mirror so you can see exactly what you are doing. All women are perfectly formed with a huge variety in genital shape and size (just like penises). Whilst the clit clip is very popular and most women can put it on with some practice, occassionally your body shape may just not be conducive to wearing it successfully. Combine your clit clip with using Purr gel for enhanced sensation. Have lots of fun!
The Clit Clip can be slightly challenging to put on for new users but it is well worth persisting :) Hold the clip inbetween your fingers at the closed end. Gently pull the inner labia (lips) out so that you can slide the arms of the clit clip behind the clit with the open arms resting either side of your inner labia. This may be quite a tight sensation initially. Your clit should poke through the round opening at the top of the clip providing a little pressure to keep the clit out. The clit hood will be slightly pulled back which for most women will enhance sensation. It helps to use a little Lubricant such as Probe or saliva on the Clit clip so that it slides on easily. If you find that the clip is too tight or too loose you may need to adjust the clip arms by pulling them out or pushing them together slightly to fit your body shape.
It may help to use a small hand mirror so you can see exactly what you are doing. All women are perfectly formed with a huge variety in genital shape and size (just like penises). Whilst the clit clip is very popular and most women can put it on with some practice, occassionally your body shape may just not be conducive to wearing it successfully. Combine your clit clip with using Purr gel for enhanced sensation. Have lots of fun!
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